Lauer: 'This community welcomed us'

Posted: Wednesday, April 18 at 12:01 pm ET by Petra Cahill, MSNBC.com


April 18: Virginia Tech professor Lucinda Roy tells TODAY's Matt Lauer about her warnings about the mental health of Cho Seung-Hui.

After taping the “Today” show on the Virginia Tech campus on Wednesday, co-host Matt Lauer shared his thoughts on covering the tragedy with MSNBC.com’s Petra Cahill.

Q: You’ve covered so many of these tragedies. What stands out with this one?

A: All of us in this business have unfortunately had to go to communities that have been ripped apart by some sort of violent tragedy, and it’s amazing to see the different responses that people have. Often you’ll find – and it’s completely understandable – that they want nothing to do with the media. They want you to get out, they want you to stay away and give them their time to grieve and come to terms with it.

While I’m sure there was a lot of that emotion among the people here at Virginia Tech, what they showed us was quite the opposite. I was really taken by the fact that the people in this community welcomed us. They really wanted us to cover the tragedy and report the facts and emotions. But at the same time, I can’t tell you the number of people that came up to me and said, “We want you to see the story, but we also want you to see another side of us. We want you to know that we’re more than this story.” They went out of their way to show us that with their spirit and their kindness. And then they would always end the conversation with something like, “We want you to see the ‘Hokie spirit.’” And it sounds clichéd or trite in some ways, but it really made a difference.

Q: Is there one particular person you spoke with who really brought the story home?

A: This morning I spoke to one of Cho's creative writing professors, Lucinda Roy. She had been shown his writings in the fall of 2005 and she was so alarmed that she had him taken out of class and began to work with him individually. Then she was so disturbed by what she found that she brought it to the attention of school officials and law enforcement officials. Nobody could force him into counseling and the law enforcement officials said that there was nothing explicit enough or violent enough in his writings that they could do anything.

What strikes you first of all was how articulate and eloquent Roy was, and how frustrated she was by it. But also it strikes you that we’ve got to figure a way in this country to deal with situations like this. So often when tragedies happen, when someone goes off the deep end, you have people afterward saying there were warning signs. We’ve got to figure out a way in this country – without taking away someone’s rights – to be more aggressive and more proactive in terms of making sure that the system is aware of these situations and monitors them very closely.

Q: Any other impressions that you've gotten from family members of the victims?

A: Viewers often ask why family members do interviews with the media so close to a tragedy, so close to losing a loved one. And here again, we see the reason why: While many don’t want to talk, the ones who did wanted to put a face on the tragedy. They don’t want their child to become a statistic – no. 28 killed or no. 30 killed. They want people to know that this was a living, breathing person who had hopes, talents and ambitions.

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I've seen interviews with several of the kids who are survivors of this terrible mass murder. I've been so impressed with how decent and good and caring of other people they are. Also, the roommates of the shooter tried to include him with their friends and activites and tried different ways to help him. I pray for God's blessing on all of these young people.

These days while whole nations are crying, just let me explain about the mentality of some people, who are talking and talking and talking. We need quietness, meditation and inner silence. Otherwise what we are watching..it will tell you how vain our value system [1.] ABC News:their presentation and within other media does not reflect a healthy discussion, any deep idealogoy, rather than making shining, bamping informations, consuming violent information items. It was mostly like propaganda, and imature news analysis. 2. Young generations left behind, while they are suffering, and living in deep pain 3. Trust in God and morality needed in our society 4. Media, violence game business, culture of violence need to be rejected boldly. 5. Culture of violence like music, movies and sex need to be condemned 6. Honesty, truthfulness and love of God, love of Great American people need to uphold. 7. The great sacrifice of this nations and their love for the humanity need to be arise, and praise. 8. Free from media violence 9. Need a Department of Truth under federal goverment to find out the causes and healing media violence, violence in education or culture of violence, which distroying our childrens' minds.10. We have to teach our children to love life.
I AM A MOTHER AND A FATHER, LET ME BELIEVE YOU THAT MY CHILDREN WILL LIVE LONG, MY AMERICA WILL BE A PLACE OF PEACE AND LOVE

My deepest sympathy go out to all of the families, students, faculty, administration and alumni. I am a parent of a former Virginia Tech student now a alumnus,and all are in my thoughts and prayers. The serene beauty of the campus...the mighty spirit of the students and faculty will live on! I, too, am wearing my Virginia Tech shirt....maroon and orange.

This lunatic with a history of "issues" both social and emotional walked into a store in my home town and bought an extremely lethal weapon....completely legally!! The second amendment was written at a time when high tech weaponry consisted of a horn full of gun powder and rifles were accurate up to about 50 feet. As an "outdoorsy" type even I can see when enough is enough. Gun control laws do not infringe on American's rights as much as disturbed indeviduals with a chip on their shouder carrying semi automatic, polymer pistols that have a magazine capacity of 17 bullets.

The young people from VT that I have seen on TV the last couple of days remind me so much of the students at my son's University (Tex A&M) They seem such a close net group. Our prayers go out to their families and friends. But to say guns are the problem is like saying exchange students are the problem. You just can't keep mentally deranged people from doing others harm by passing gun laws. They have not respect for life, much less gun laws.

I have been on the verge of tears all week. Even though I have been away from VT and Blacksburg since 1983 when my wife and I graduated, this horrific event has made me realize the bond I still have with the school and the town. The students and faculty are 1000 % behind the actions of the school president and the campus police chief. No one knows how anyone would respond under such conditions, but President Steger and Police Chief Flinchum have showed calm and appropriate responses to the event in my opinion. The reporter who asked the police chief why he seemed so dispassionate over the whole situation on Monday should have been immediately escorted out of the room and off the campus for having such nerve. I will be forever saddened by the association of this tragedy with my school for the forseeable future. One thing I will promise though...if my 16 year old son wants to go to Tech, I will proudly encourage him to apply.

My daughter is away at college, 120 miles from VT and has friends who had high school classmates that were included in the 32 senseless deaths. This country needs to stop worrying about the rights of individuals when the actions of individuals are devastating the rights of the masses. This sick individual not only needed help, but with the signs that were very apparent to many, needed to be committed for his and others safety. However, he had rights and could not be forced to get help. Things need to change.Gun control is a start and reform in our mental health system is a priority. God bless VT and all who are effected by this event.

Do we need to visit gun control or moral and ethic control. If he didn't have a gun then a bomb which would have probably caused more deaths. It becomes apparent these people do these things so violently because they know the news media will spread their name and deed all over the world for weeks on end. They know in their own little twisted minds- "they will get even with society" and the media will help them spread their deed.
Maybe we need to look at why rather than the method use to commit such a horrible deed. Why the violence and why is it allowed to be spread in the form of entertainment for a society caught up in greed and violence. Why do we not see more on the good side of humanity. Why are there not endless air time spent on the good deeds done by people? God is good; why is so much time spent on evil and its outcome?

I sorry for the lost of life to the 32 victims, in cold blood, and at a young age at VT. But President Bush is causing this in Iraq with the young soldiers. He does not get a free pass, this Prseident is causing young American to die for a failed policy. I understand it is an all volunteer military, and they are joining the military to defend the Constitution not the politic of this American President he as failed and continues to fail the American people, and as we grief for young Americans remember what the President of the United States is doing.

I'm not sure why there have been comments about where the gunman's parents are and why they haven't been interviewed? First of all, they are not responsible for their son's actions. I'm sure they feel horrible enough for all the lives lost, including their own son's. And, why should they be interviewed. I mean what could they possibly say? This has been a horrible tragedy but wanting to see the parents of this mentally troubled youth somehow take the blame serves no purpose. I'm sure there are thousands of parents who have no idea if their children are unstable enough to have committed such a horrific crime. The Cho family will have to live with the death of all these innocent people for the rest of their lives. I'm sure that's punishment enough.

Most of the solutions offered on this post would probably work if the behaviors of a depraved mad man were in any way predictable.

As I watched this tragedy unfold, I found myself crying for everyone, victims, families, friends, VT staff and faculty, etc. My heart goes out to all of those involved as well as, every person that has been affected by this. I remember the day (the anniversary is tomorrow 04/19/2007) of the bombing here in Oklahoma City. I remember how the whole nation reached out to us in our time of need. It is clear that VT needs for our arms to be opened for them now, in which they clearly are. Prayers, wishes, condolences, tears, and all the emotions in between, are with you Virginia. I think about you every minute of every day since this has happened. God Bless and Be strong!

I am form guyana,and it is very shocking to learn of the tragedy.my prayers are with those who lost their love ones.I would like to know where are is parents?and why have'nt they come out to say some thing.Thank you

As a parent of a child in college, my first thoughts when I heard about this tradgic shooting went out to the parents and loved ones of the victims. It is saddening to know that in the blink of an eye, your life and the lives of many others is inexpicably changed forever. The community as a whole as suffered a loss of monumentaul proportions. The courage of the survivors, and the community is inspiring. My thoughts and prayers are with each and everyone of you.

There is a deep hurt and anguish in my heart for what is happening in our country these days. I lift up to the Lord our God in prayer all those who are hurting from this terrible tradgedy. The real issue in society is immorality. If you teach someone that there is no God. And that there is no penalty for wickedness. That all we are are a higher species of animal with no one to answer to for our actions. With no sense of whats right or wrong. Only an opinion. Then why are we so suprised when people begin to act like animals, after all there is no God to answer too. But thanks be to the Lord our God. Becuase He does live and He sits on the throne to judge the wicked. Its the heart of a man that does wickedness. NOT the weapon he uses.

As I watched in horror the tragedy at VT unfold on Monday, I felt a part of me die. I have a niece there now and I wonder if she will ever be the same. My memories of VT are great and I can only hope that all the students there now will recover and be able to have good memories too.

The past two days Ive watched and read so much of what has gone on at this campus. I cant help to take a moment and pray for everyone that is going through this tough time right now. How brave the ones are that took that split second to act on whatever their situation was, and in results in just a few moments saved lives. And the teacher that put his life at risk to save his class mates. Even from inteviews You can see how much love is there how important each one of these outstanding people were, its hard to hold back many tears as i watch & listen about people i never even knew before... its really sad my heart goes out to them. Ive lost my mother from cancer when i was young, and I can only imagine a little piece of what their family, friends and others who are close are going through. My heart and soul goes out to all of those who have been affected by this tragedy. I believe they do need some time to start grieving, Its not going to be easy its going to take some time maybe even yrs.from now. I admire how close everyone is and how much they are coming together being their for one another to help eachother through this hard time. I think the Media needs to give them some room! God bless u all and I hope and pray that you find comfort and healing in the days ahead.

I understand completely why friends and family want to do interviews to discuss their loss. A year and a half ago my husband was gunned down while sitting in a car waiting for a relative to get off work. He was just like the victims at VA Tech, in the wrong place at the wrong time. I too wanted everyone to remember my husband had people who loved him and that he had a life and that he was not just the 68th person murdered in the city. They never caught the guy who killed my husband and the media has really been my only way to keep him alive in the minds and hearts of others so that maybe the guy can be found.

My heartful prayers for all that died in the VT and for the families that lost their love ones. I am so saddened with the lives that lost horribly. We need to unite and hear and understand the voices of those in need so it will not end to this. Where are the parents? We need to hear their side.

Swift Boat: Please don't use this message board as a conduit to attacking our president. These messages are meant to be shared and hopefully viewed by those involved or who care about this particular tragedy, not the war. Instead of being so bitter, why not offer your condolences and prayers for these innoncent lives which were lost. There are many other issues in the world right now which may not be right but this message board is dealing with the Virginia Tech tragedy. Peace be with you.

As parents, we have been given the utmost responisiblity- love our children. As a nation, the same applies-love our children: black children, white children, purple children, poor children, rich children, healthy children, sick children (yes, even mentally). It is so easy to point to politics and failures of the "system." I read once that rules without love only leads to greater rebellion; it is unclear and doubtful that stricter gun laws could have prevented this tradedy. The solution must begin in our homes and infiltrate our schools and our nation. My heart breaks for our nation, my heart breaks for the families in Virginia. The media has done an excellent job at depicting the heroism, love, and selflessness of the VT students. Our hearts and prayers go out to you all.

We are the very proud parents of our son Erik (BSME)who graduated from VT in 1995 and was a member of the Corps of Cadets (Delta). His choice of the friendly campus and community was confirmed many times during our visits. No community, and especially not Blacksburg, should have to endure the pain created over the last couple of days. We cried with you and pray that healing will be possible so that we may experience the joy of Hokie parents again. Dr. Steger, faculty and staff, we wish you wisdom and strength. To the parents, friends and family members of those who so tragically lost their lives and those who were wounded, we keep you in our prayers.

The people who murder others prior to commiting suicide such as Cho Seung-Hui and the Muslim suicide bombers are very selfish,they are not martyrs, they're criminals, and so are the people who help to plan such attacks. The scale and systematic nature of these attacks sets them apart from other abuses committed in times of conflict. They clearly fall under the category of crimes against humanity, since they cannot be convicted and hung anyone that help them should be put to death, such as Saddam or leaders of countries such as Iran and those that continue to murder in iraq thru suicide bombings

We need to have stricter gun control laws like many other countries. There is too much violence in our society and the facility to get guns makes the situation even worse. Also, we need to have better mental health care and more accesibility for the invididuals who need that care.

My heart goes out to the families and friends affected by the VT tragedy, just as it goes out to the families and friends of the 119 people killed every day in auto accidents. Every unexpected death is a tragedy.

Until we start taking responsibility for ourselves and our communities; until we put aside those things that blind us to the fact that our neighbors are flesh and blood human beings with thoughts and feelings just like our own, and that everyone is our neighbor; tragedies like these will continue.

Please respect the memories of those who died by continuing their good works, by helping each other, by helping those who are in need, by being a friend to everyone.

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