Bud Kick drove five hours from Gaithersburg, Md., on Wednesday to be with his daughter, Danielle, a 20-year-old sophomore at Virginia Tech. Asked why he waited until two days after Monday’s horrific bloodbath to make the trip, he replied, “She asked me to come.”
The powerful desire to be close to family members in this time of tragedy has brought many parents to the Virginia Tech campus, in some cases simply to pick up devastated students and take them home.
Kick said Danielle initially said she wanted to stay on campus to mourn with her friends and fellow Hokies. But after two days she wanted her dad with her, too.
“I think after the shock and the numbness wore off after the first few days, even us from home … could feel the pain,” said Kick, choking up as he recalled the Tuesday night phone call that put him on the road. “This is a sanctuary for these kids, and it’s changed. I just want to help them through the transition.”
A different sort of familial pull tugged Floridians Chuck and Betty Fontana to the Blacksburg campus.
Chuck, a 1960 graduate who said he arrived on the campus as a 17-year-old fresh from Staten Island, N.Y., and has been “a nut about it” ever since, had to pause to consider when asked what prompted the couple to drive to the campus on Wednesday.
“It’s family,” he said finally.
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As officials, students and families struggle to come to terms with the tragedy at Virginia Tech, a team of MSNBC.com reporters and editors and NBC News producers and correspondents is on the scene.
It doesn't make me angry at all to see his face plastered all over the media. OK, so he's getting his narcissitic desires met but look what it cost him. He will go down as a sick psychopath like all the others, Hitler included. We don't not show footage just because someone does something evil. It should be shown and watched and be a lesson to us all to watch out for those people we know who are deviant and scary.
Dad (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:00:06 AM)
I want to say a prayer for his family and sister who must be going thru hell right now.his Mom knowing ''motherly instinct"" Not my boy,my boy wouldn't couldn.t do this....
John Jankowski Gaithersburg Md (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:00:25 AM)
While I think we can all agree that while it is important to cover the events and news of our nation with integrity and dedication to the full truth, I question the ethical decisions NBC made today in handling of the information they received 'from a murderer,' as Brian Williams put it himself. Not only did they wait for four hours to turn the VA Tech killer's writings over to the authorities…they greedily opened the package and made copies of all of the materials for themselves. Without pause or apparent consideration for whether it was something they should do, they fulfilled the mass murderer's dreams by broadcasting every detail throughout the day. Why did you make the decision to broadcast this material? Was it really necessary to broadcast this material to maintain journalistic integrity, especially so soon after the tragedy? Was it because the opportunities for your ad revenues outweighed morality? Or do you chose to ignore the notion that the power you possess can inspire future killers as it has in the past? What were some other ways this could have been handled? Many are disappointed and I hope that you find time to answer my questions, and that you will continue to provide a just service to the American public.
Patrick Delaney, Afton, MN (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:04:17 AM)
I agree that all of this coverage, especially the posting of the pictures where he is pointing a gun directly at the camera is unnerving. Why do we constantly have to be bombarded with the horrendous details? I'm a believer in my rights, and yes I know that I can turn off the television, or not peruse the internet, however, no matter what station you turn to, or what news site you hit on, all you do is see the gun pointed right at you. I wasn't even there, and I feel some of the fear the victims must have felt. For their families, please stop showing this awful stuff.
S. Pena, Gallup, New Mexico (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:05:19 AM)
the only thing you are going to do by showing those pictures of that psycho loser is just make people even mader. u are just glorifying him by placing his stupid face everywhere. every time i see his face i just want to beat the living crap out of him. have respect for people and quit showing that madman.
Erica H. Hays Kansas (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:17:41 AM)
LISTEN UP PEOPLE( and i'm not trying to excuse this guy) BUT UNTIL SOCIETY STOPS LABELING PEOPLE, ie GEEKS, NERDS,WIERDOS,UNCOOL, WHATEVER THIS WILL KEEP ON GOING ON. I FEEL REAL SORROW FOR THE VICTEMS AND THER FAMILIES BUT THINK ABOUT WHY THIS HAPPENED.
CHRIS B OKC OK (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:22:39 AM)
Well if the public is so facinated with this sick man, who he was, and why he did the things he did of course the media is going to give them what they want. You have to remember that when these things happen, people have only one question and thats... WHY? And who is the one with that answer right now? The Media.
David, Florida (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:30:25 AM)
This whole debacle is a very sad testament to what our culture has become. This young man is a product of our culture. Of our television programing filled to the brim with violence and people treating each other like dirt, our videogames, our music and lyrics, our stores that hand out guns to children as if they were toys...just to make a buck, and our current administration who still are trying to justify or ignore the killing of innocent Iraqi civilians. WHY ARE WE SUPRISED that this is the kind of monster our culture can produce. Think about it. By supporting our violent media, that shows no boundaries between sacred and profane, decency and pornography, ethical and unethical at all levels of our society, then, in actuality, we are all to blame for producing disturbed young people such as this. Everyone is attacking this boy's sick mind...but how did it get so sick? Shaking our heads and calling it a tragedy due to a psychotic mind is skirting the real issue of accountability, Lest we heed warnings such as this, we will only produce far more disturbed and violent minds.
Stu C, New Orleans , LA (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:33:58 AM)
I have to agree with most of the comments here, but not all. I see a lot of finger pointing as to how others should have done more to prevent this cowardly act by an obviously sick person. But still he is the one who is ultimately responsible for his actions. It has become too common place to blame others for our acts. Such as the comment by Michael Sol about the constitution. That is in the same context as the European media that has been acting holier than thou and blaming the American Gun culture and saying they don't have mass shootings like that. That is true, over there the crackpots use explosive belts, bombs, and poision gas canisters against which there is no defense at all and usually kill and injure more than the shooters do here.
GLP, Harlowton, MT (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:34:06 AM)
you know it does seem like this man is getting all the attention, the killer that is, lets just let God deal with him and we all can just focus on praying for the families that lost their love ones
bobby el dorado ark (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:41:03 AM)
Why is everyone writing comments insulting each other? This is evidence that we humans have a hard time getting along togther in this world.
I'm curious like Catherine. Why weren't his parents notified of his troubles in 2005 with stalking female students on campus of VA Tech? Where were they when he admitted himself to mental facility?
Actually could law enforcement gone further to involve parents in green warranting him to a locked up mental institution because he was a menace to himself and others. Maybe he could have gotten on some psyche meds and treatments.
I grieve for those families who lost children and loved ones. My nephew has recently been accepted to VA Tech in the engineering program and he and his Dad were in those very buildings last Saturday 4/14/07.
I'm chilled to the core and would be devistated if he was one of the victims.
I can't imagine what the injured victims and the deceased victims families are experiencing now.
Betty Jean, Richmond, VA (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:44:48 AM)
It is a sad, sad day in America...all the news coverage and everyone trying to be politically correct...meanwhile, South Korea is "horrified" about the backlash...whatever...haven't I seen S. Korea's president's face plastered all over the place because of...whatever, didn't hear too much about THAT on the news...think maybe it had something to do with NUCLEAR WEAPONS {twirling hair, chewing gum, and doing my best blonde impression}...and now they're "worried" this will cause "tension"...this story unfolds on so many levels...and I'm actually very surprised by the media's lack of sensationalism...at least on an intellectual level...why is NBC so redundant about the fact that they "did the right thing" and "immediately" handed the multi-media version over to the FBI "4 hours later"...? Are they more impressed with themselves with getting the story handed to them on a silver platter? Why aren't they pressing to find out from the parents of MR. PSYCHO what went wrong? I haven't heard one single word directly from his parents...just the old postal delivery guy who used to drop mail off at his house for 2.5 seconds and says "everyone seemed so nice". And, then, there's always the wonderment about why they came to our country in the first place? Did Cho witness something horrible in South Korea that he could never recover from? Was he raised to believe that America was at fault? What else could explain why he would be adopted into our lifestyle and still have such a contempt for our "safety", that 14 years later he would turn around and take advantage of? I am not alone when I say, "I just don't get it". God Bless the families and give them comfort...it is all so senseless.
LLR, Douglas, WY (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:49:30 AM)
Was it racism that sent the police after the wrong suspect, thus causing them not to shutdown the campus? When they found the first two victims they saw a young white female and a young black male. I don’t believe finding two females or two males or a white male and white female would have sent them in the direction they went. The impulse to kill a lover for infidelity is multiplied for some when the other guy is also black. Did the police put themselves in the jealous lover's shoes? Did their personal feelings lead them down the wrong road,...and leave the actual killer access to the thirty more lives he took? I pray this was not the case...
Nathan Johnson, St Paul, Minn (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:55:09 AM)
I agree that the coverage of this killer serves no positive purpose, but I also know that if we, the citizens of the USA, are willing to watch it, the news media will continue to show it. We can place blame at the police, the university, or the media, but there is no doubt in my mind that this person could have been stopped had he not had semi-automatic handguns. As a society, we refuse to take any action to limit the sale of semi-automatic weapons. These weapons have no use other than the proliferation of death and destruction. They are not defensive in nature. Surely, any intruder could be downed with six bullets. They are certainly not used in sport shooting as what would be the sport in downing an animal with such a weapon. The use of these weapons is only violent in nature. Any gun that allows for the insertion of a magazine clip with over six bullets should be greatly restricted or outlawed. At the least, there should be a much longer waiting period and much more stringent qualifications for owning such a weapon including more stringent background checks and personal statements by numerous references that the owner is qualified and sane to own and operate a semi-automatic weapon. We have the highest gun-death rate in the western world. As a society, we must re-evaluate our priorites, at least as they apply to semi-automatic weapons.
A Concerned Citizen, Waco, Texas (Sent Apr 19, 2007 12:57:21 AM)
I think it is sad for everyone all the way around. College years should be about learning and having fun. Not worrying if one will live or die at the hands of a disturbed person. Instead of arguing all of you should be praying for everyone this has affected. It is also sad that TV ratings out way everything else. But that is the way it is. There will be those who want to know every detail and those who do not. We all have the choice of whether to watch or not watch.
Connie Heitz, Columbus OH (Sent Apr 19, 2007 1:00:37 AM)
At first, I thought by broadcasting photos and the video of the killer it would give him the attention he so craved. However, it shows the world what a sick individual he is. By seeing how insane and scary he is, by some strange way it may start to bring closure.
Val B. Pittsburgh, PA (Sent Apr 19, 2007 1:03:05 AM)
I know that this may not mean anything to anyone here, but here goes, If you ask me I think that the thing on his head is a HAT not a bandana or scrafe.
This may sound stupid but Im so tired of the news not reporting the story the way it happened and then turning everything around to fit the way that they want it to be reported.
I just wish they would get things right the first time or get off the stick.
And yes I wish they would stop using his picture aswell because this is just getting his message out to the rest of the people like him. I know that there are people that are dealing with the inner demons, but thats the way it is. We just need to find a way to help them the best we can.
I just love the way that the MSNBC reporters act when they were talking about the way he was talking about the rich people, they know what he means there not stupid they just have money stuffed in there ears and there wallet there not fooling anyone.
But its ok to have rich people because, if we didnt have them then there would be any jobs, right.
I mean how many poor people do you know that hire others. WE really need to hear more about the victims and not the killer, we all know what he was "STUPID"
God be with the victims familys, may there souls rest in peace. and that bastard burn in hell
Coach (Sent Apr 19, 2007 1:04:56 AM)
It isn't suprising that the Media is showing his picture. The entire industry is basedo n marketing violence, murder, sex crimes etc.
Turn on the Tv tonight, watch one show that is about a sexual psychopath, another where a man is dumped in a garbage pit, one on cbs right now starts out with a killing before the opening credits run.
I am not staying that Tv shows cause murder or violence just that the new has now become so embedded in the entaintment side of the house that they are using this tragic story to simply sell advertising.
On the today show a young woman who was at both Columbine and VT said that the one thing that would help was for the Media to back off.. Instead Katie Couric thanked her, told her how sorry she was and then went right into doing what she asked them not to.. Murder is entertainment and real life murder is "gold" to the networks.
btw: more people would post if you didn't publish our emails for spammers
Cassie R, Issaquah, WA (Sent Apr 19, 2007 1:14:09 AM)
i know that whenever i have been in even the remotest of tragedies, i have wanted to be surrounded by those who could relate. nothing felt better then being with those people who were going through the same things i were...
jennster (Sent Apr 19, 2007 1:20:11 AM)
How can anyone feel sorry for someone like that, after seeing the video of him, the kid is just sick. Notice how he blamed everyone else for all his problems, and comparing himself to Jesus, as he died? Somehow I cant see the compairison. Life aint easy so deal with it. No excuse for killing 32 people, I dont care how hard you think you have it. The sad part of it is, he's getting what he wanted his video is played on every media channel, and unfortunatley someone somewhere will look at him as a hero and something like this will happen again, he looked at the columbine murder's as marders. Sadly I dont think we have seen the end of school shootings. As a student myself, this event brings it home, its definatley on your mind everyday you wake up for another class. Lets keep in mind the true victims of this shooting, enough with showing his video.
Dylan W, Grand Forks, North Dakota (Sent Apr 19, 2007 1:24:56 AM)
Skip, I realize you don't want to reward a murderer with attention after such a hideous event. I understand, but it's too late to punish him. He's dead. And now there's no way he's going to be deprived of the recognition and attention he didn't get before he did this deed. He is now assured a place in history, and in the memories of countless people.
The media has got to cover this. Everyone is asking: Why? Part of coping is trying to figure out what went on in the head of the one who went way over the line. But while everyone is trying to answer that question, what about why no one could find a thing to do to prevent this? Why, when teachers, the school administration, classmates, roommates, counselors, police and mental health experts all knew he had terrible problems, was nothing done about or for him?
All we've been hearing about is one warning sign after another Cho generated for at least two years. At the very least you've got to ask why the administration allowed that young man to remain on campus after so many extremely disturbing incidents.
The mourner from Chicago thinks he doesn't deserve our concern, but maybe if someone in authority had been more concerned about him before Monday, his face wouldn't be a headliner today.
Hindsight is 20/20, yeah yeah. Trouble is, this is not exactly the first school shooting that's happened, is it? Time to ask why they keep happening.
Sally, AZ (Sent Apr 19, 2007 1:32:43 AM)
I find the murderer's pictures offensive and horrifying. I wish they were not the first pictures I see when I bring up the news sites. However, I am concerned that I may be thinking only of myself and more people (if they can tolerate his evil display in his face) should become aware of the person and the signs of a killer. Maybe it can help to prevent another tragedy in the making. I hope it does.
B. Robert, Lexington, NC (Sent Apr 19, 2007 1:35:27 AM)
I haven't come across anything about the parents of Cho; where are they in this picture? There was one reference to the police cars around their house but nothing on what is happening with them. Remember how quick the Amish community was to embrace the shooter's family in a cloak of forgiveness-- it would be a monumental step of faith for all of us to extend that sort of connection to them. Is it remotely possible to get there from here?
Timark Hamilton, Wall Walla, WA. (Sent Apr 19, 2007 1:53:48 AM)
This idiot wanted his 15 minutes of fame. The media is letting him have alot more than that. They shouldn't show any of this on TV. Why didn't the men, while he was shooting people, run at him instead of away. Yes some would have been shot. Probably not 32. We need to take control of our lives.
Wyn Bellflower CA (Sent Apr 19, 2007 2:08:05 AM)
{Your coverage of this mass murderer is just what he wanted. I think you should focus on the innocent students and teachers and their families. Personally, this madman should receive no attention for this horrific crime.}
Well said, Skip D. While all the facts need to be known, they do not need to be done in such a way as to glorify him or bring more limelight to shine upon the killer. What do you think he wanted by sending the videos? He got everything he was trying for- now he will be remembered and will go down with a label... and people will watch him on tv, the internet, when they shut their eyes... The victims are what now is important, as well as their families. What he did was a horrific thing, and 'showing off'everything he did just puts it out there for copycats to know we would do the same for them. Remember those who were sacrificied because of his bloodlust. Remember those who now have to live without those that they loved. Remember those who fought to stay alive after being victimized and won. Do not remember the insignificant face of the one who brought this great tragedy upon us.
My thoughts are with those who passed on and their families, and well wishes to those suffering mentally and physically from this pain. Rest In Peace.
Tiffany O, Pittsburgh, PA (Sent Apr 19, 2007 2:21:39 AM)
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